These funeral quotes will help you write a eulogy or service, or just find some words of comfort.
Some of them will also challenge your views on death and expose you to funeral practices of other cultures.
There are often no good words when someone is in the middle of grieving.
No one really knows what to say, even though they desperately want to say the ‘right thing.’
The funeral itself is a way for loved ones to honor the memory and life of the person they have lost.
Consequently, each culture may have a different way of performing the funeral.
The funeral itself might follow a religious ceremony, or it might have no structure.
Some cultures and beliefs have a wake or party afterwards that is much lighter than the funeral itself.
However you experience a funeral, the point is to offer love and support for the family while remembering the person who has passed away.
These funeral quotes are a good way to prepare and better understand what the purpose of a funeral is.
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Funeral quotes for the eulogy or service
A funeral is never easy, but it is often a time of reflection on the person who passed, as well as your own priorities. The collection of quotes below are from people reflecting on life.
1. “Grief is the price we pay for love” — Colin Murray Parkes
2. “The song is ended, but the melody lingers on…” — Irving Berlin, The Song is Ended
3. “Life has to end. Love doesn’t.” — Mitch Albom, The Five People You Meet in Heaven
4. “As is a tale, so is a life: Not how long it is, but how good it is, is what matters.” — Seneca
5. “For life and death are one, even as the river and the sea are one.” — Khalil Gibran, On Death
6. “How lucky am I to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard.” — A.A. Milne, Winnie the Pooh
7. “Lives are like rivers: Eventually they go where they must. Not where we want them to.” —Richard Russo
8. “Death is not extinguishing the light. It is putting out the lamp because the dawn has come.” — Rabindranath Tagore
9. “What we once enjoyed and deeply loved we can never lose, for all that we love deeply becomes part of us.” — Helen Keller
10. “How can the dead be truly dead when they still live in the souls of those who are left behind?” — Carson McCullers, The Heart is a Lonely Hunter
Funeral quotes about different cultures and customs
From life through death different cultures have different customs. Check out the quotes below to get some perspective on differing views of death and burial.
11. “Among other things, culture is the decision as to how a corpse is to be returned to the soil.” ― Mokokoma Mokhonoana
12. “I’ve never seen a nation more quick at finding joy in a sad situation than the Irish at a funeral.” ― E.A. Bucchianeri, Vocation of a Gadfly
13. “The notion of burial had always struck him as stifling and cold. He liked the Indian way better, setting the bodies up high, as if passing them to the heavens.” ― Michael Punke, The Revenant
14. “Why should black be the color of death? Why not the colors of a sunset?” ― Daniele Varè, The Maker of Heavenly Trousers
15. “It’s important to attend funerals. It is important to view the body, they say, and to see it committed to earth or fire because unless you do that, the loved one dies for you again and again.” ― Ann-Marie MacDonald, Fall on Your Knees
16. “It’s ghastly to burn someone you love but watching the smoke going into the sky, I think that’s rather beautiful now. And I wish Tess could be up in the sky. Somewhere with color and light and air.” ― Rosamund Lupton, Sister
17. “I wish to declare with all earnestness that I do not want any religious ceremonies performed for me after my death. I do not believe in such ceremonies, and to submit to them, even as a matter of form, would be hypocrisy and an attempt to delude ourselves and others.” ― Jawaharlal Nehru
18. “Following directly behind the bier were the servants who would, in earlier times, have been slaughtered at the graveside, along with a warrior’s horse. Musicians and torchbearers came next, with the rear taken up by the mimes- sinister, silent figures in wax masks modeled on dead members of the family.” ― Catharine Arnold, Necropolis: London and Its Dead
19. “The Romans feared their dead. In fact, Roman funeral customs derived from a need to propitiate the sensibilities of the departed. The very word funus may be translated as dead body, funeral ceremony, or murder. There was a genuine concern that, if not treated appropriately, the spirits of the dead, or manes, would return to wreak revenge” ― Catharine Arnold, Necropolis: London and Its Dead
Powerful funeral quotes to make you think about life and death
Sometimes we need a powerful word or quote to get us through a tough time. Take a look at the collection of powerful quotes below.
20. “Laughter at a funeral is a sign of a life well loved.” ― Todd Stocker
21. “Only you get to attend the funeral when you bury your past.” ― Nitya Prakash
22. “Some people murder your dreams and then attend the funeral too.” ― Nitya Prakash
23. “How quickly, how neatly the chaos of a living person could be reduced to an insignificant box.” ― Josh Lanyon, Fatal Shadows
24. “Funerals aren’t for the dead, they’re for the living, and I want to live.” ― Leia Stone, Fallen Academy: Year Three And A Half
25. “I want words at my funeral. But I guess that means you need life in your life.” ― Markus Zusak, The Book Thief
26. “Almost every funeral is attended by at least a few people whose funerals the person being buried thought he or she would attend.” ― Mokokoma Mokhonoana
27. “Funerals greatly exaggerate the pleasantness of being alive, while they prevent us from thinking about the advantages of being dead.” ― Mokokoma Mokhonoana
28. “Funerals are a constant reminder that chasing most of the things we are chasing is an embarrassing way to spend a portion of our lives.” ― Mokokoma Mokhonoana
29. “During a funeral, the corpse receives way more affection, love, or attention, from some people, than was ever received, from those people, by the person the corpse used to be.” ― Mokokoma Mokhonoana
30. “In the middle of some of the most passionate debates, I often ask my patients, “At your funeral, will it matter?” And it is amazing how often that question is followed by absolute silence.” ― Craig D. Lounsbrough
Funny funeral quotes for a different perspective
Funerals are sad, but good and funny times are often shared. Take a look at these quotes to bring a smile to a hard time.
31. “Life is but a story told at one’s funeral” ― Charles Slamowitz
32. “I never saw a dollar bill cry at anyone’s funeral.” ― J. Lincoln Fenn
33. “Unfortunately, being dead from inside doesn’t reduce the cost of the funeral.” ― Nitya Prakash
34. “Visit me before I die. We can enjoy one another’s company. A funeral is a rather one-sided affair.” ― Ralph Webster
35.“I wear all black to remind you not to mess with me because I’m already dressed for your funeral.” ― Moosa Rahat
36. “In the city a funeral is just an interruption of traffic; in the country it is a form of entertainment. ” ― George Ade
37. “In few places is there such a high concentration of hypocrisy as at a writer’s funeral.” ― Juan Gabriel Vásquez, La forma de las ruinas
38. “I’m telling you, Augustus Waters talked so much that he’d interrupt you at his own funeral.” ― John Green, The Fault in Our Stars
39. “Death has a style all its own. I’m glad I don’t have to wear it very often.” ― Courtney C. Stevens, Faking Normal
40. “That the word funeral starts with fun does not convert it to merriment.” ― Vincent Okay Nwachukwu, Weighty ‘n’ Worthy African Proverbs – Volume 1
41. “People are usually pretty hungry after a funeral. I guess it’s because we all realize that time is running out and we better eat all we can. Please don’t mention that to my mother.” ― Peter Hedges, What’s Eating Gilbert Grape
Funeral quotes about mourning and grief
Funerals are a time for mourning. Take a look below to see how others have felt.
42. “Grief remains one of the few things that has the power to silence us.” — Anna Quindlen
43. “Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal.” — Anonymous
44. “Should the measure of a man be the number of mourners at his funeral? What if he was not close to anyone but himself?” ― Tapan Ghosh
45. “It is sad to fill a grave with a person full of potential yet completely emptied of any more possibility to try it once again.” ― Johnnie Dent Jr.
46. “Funerals seem less about comforting the souls of these dearly departed than about
comforting the people they leave behind.” ― Rin Chupeco
47. “Your coffin reached the monstrous hole. And a part of me went down into the muddy earth with you and lay down next to you and died with you.” ― Rosamund Lupton, Sister
48. “The mourning of a loved one never ends with a funeral. It comes back every so often, like a stage performer eager for a curtain call and expects you to be loud about it. I gave it all the lung capacity I had.” ― Kevin Hearne, A Plague of Giants
49. “Part of being a good funeral director—and even a good friend—is knowing that someone may not want to be consoled. They may not welcome your words of support, and you need to respect that. Someone else’s grief is not for you to solve.” ― Joanne Levy, Sorry for Your Loss
50. “For the funeral, I had to show my proper mourning face. Truly, I longed to break down and have a full-on emotional attack; perhaps if I let myself go long enough, I might get all the pain out of my system. I had no hope of doing such a thing in front of everyone I knew. It simply wasn’t proper.” ― Maddy Kobar, From Out of Feldspar
Common funeral practices in various cultures
There are common funeral practices in various cultures that might differ from your own customs.
Learning more about how other cultures view death is an eye opening experience.
Each of these customs may differ, however they are each beautiful in their own way!
People from Tibet and Buddhists participate in a sky burial.
They believe that it is important to send the person to heaven.
The manner in which they do this might seem a little strange to some of us, though.
They often leave the body outside (and even dismember it) so that birds and other creatures can eat at it.
This helps take care of the person’s remains as well as providing the animals with food.
Famadihana is a common practice in Madagascar.
It translates to “turning of the bones” and involves dancing with the dead.
Following death, loved ones come and open the tombs of the deceased and wrap their bones in ceremonial cloth and dance outside the tomb.
The idea behind it is that it speeds up the rate of decomposition, and moves the spirit into the afterlife faster.
Other customs include burying the dead in the earth or bodies of water, still others believe in cremation and funeral pyres.
It might feel a bit morbid to plan your own funeral, but if you have specific wishes, then this is the best way to make sure they are met.
Consequently, write down what you want your funeral to look like and speak about it with your family members.
What are some other funeral quotes or traditions that you or your friends practice?
Let us know in the comment section below!
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FAQs
Why are funeral rituals important? ›
Rich in history and rife with symbolism, the funeral ceremony helps us acknowledge the reality of the death, gives testimony to the life of the deceased, encourages the expression of grief in a way consistent with the culture's values, provides support to mourners, allows for the embracing of faith and beliefs about ...
What rituals are performed during funerals? ›The service is usually carried out at a church, crematorium or cemetery and will include prayers, a sermon, readings, hymns and sometimes music or poems (see our guide to popular funeral songs and famous funeral poems). Additionally, a friend or family member may choose to deliver a eulogy as a tribute to the deceased.
What is the meaning of funeral rituals? ›Funeral rites are the traditional ceremonies associated in connection with burial or cremation. These rites vary across religious groups often with a specific set of rules for what to do.
What is a funeral quote? ›Many families choose a quote from a famous author, stanza from a favorite poem or lyric from a favorite song, in addition to a selection from the Bible or other religious work. These quotes can be printed on the cover of a funeral program, engraved on mementos or used to open a eulogy or close a service.
What was the most important part of the funeral ceremony? ›Eulogy/Remembrance
Fourth, the eulogy may be the single most important aspect of a funeral service. It is the time to acknowledge and affirm the significance of the life lived. With that in mind, take time to share treasured memories, quotes, or even the lost loved one's favorite jokes.
- Assists in taking the first steps in the grief process by reinforcing the reality of death.
- Provides an opportunity to express feelings of grief.
- Encourages sharing of memories that celebrate and validate the life of the deceased.
The Purpose of a Funeral Service
Funerals allow us to say goodbye. Funerals offer continuity and hope for the living. Funerals provide a support system for us, friends, family members and the community. Funerals allow us to reflect on the meaning of life and death.
- Pick a theme. ...
- Organise a firework display. ...
- Choose a unique flower arrangement. ...
- Be colourful. ...
- Hand out seeds. ...
- Plant a memorial tree. ...
- Release balloons. ...
- Ask guests to share a memory.
The term “funeral” is generally used to describe any type of ceremony honoring the life of a deceased person. These events typically take place in a church, funeral home or other suitable location chosen by the family. The deceased's religious preference and wishes will again influence the structure of the service.
Is a funeral considered a ritual? ›The funeral usually includes a ritual through which the corpse receives a final disposition. Depending on culture and religion, these can involve either the destruction of the body (for example, by cremation or sky burial) or its preservation (for example, by mummification or interment).
What is called last rituals after death? ›
Antyesti (IAST: Antyeṣṭi, Sanskrit: अन्त्येष्टि) literally means "last sacrifice", and refers to the funeral rites for the dead in Hinduism, which usually involves cremation of the body.
Is a funeral a life cycle ritual? ›A funeral is a significant and culturally significant aspect of a person's life cycle ritual. Funeral traditions are a collection of beliefs and activities used by a community to remember and honour the dead, ranging from intercessions to memorials, prayers, and rituals performed in their honor.
What is a good funeral message? ›May our Lord bless and comfort you and your family during this time of grief. Please accept our sincere condolences. Our deepest sympathies go out to you and your family. May God give you the comfort and peace that you seek and may the soul of your loved one rest in peace.
What is a good verse for a funeral? ›Psalm 23 is one of the most famous Psalms in the Bible, and a popular choice for many occasions, including funerals. Its peaceful message recalls the faith of the person who has died, and gives hope to those who are attending the funeral.
What is a nice word for a funeral? ›Memorial service
In general, “memorial service” is another word for funeral.
It's typically considered more important to attend the funeral service. Perhaps you'd feel more comfortable only attending the funeral; however, you might like the chance to speak to the family in a more relaxed setting at the visitation. As long as you're kind and respectful, the choice is yours.
What is the value of a funeral? ›A primary importance of the funeral lies in honoring the life lived and allowing the surviving family and friends to share in their loss and gain support from one another. The ritual of attending a funeral service deliver many benefits including: Providing a social support system for the grieving family and friends.
Do funerals make you feel better? ›Not only does a meaningful service help you process and confront the pain you feel, it gives you the opportunity to express yourself, remember your loved one, and find a community of support for the days and months ahead. A well-planned funeral does not end your pain; it unveils it.
Are funerals really necessary? ›It's perfectly acceptable to not have a funeral. There's no legal requirement for you to have one — it's up to you how you'd like to be memorialized.
What are the 3 parts of the funeral? ›The Vigil, Funeral Mass and the Committal. Through these sacred and solemn Catholic Rites, the family and friends of the deceased are reminded of the companionship and support of Christ and all believers.
What are the types of funerals? ›
- Graveside or Committal Service. A graveside burial – or committal service – is held directly near the gravesite before the body is committed to the ground. ...
- Memorial Service. ...
- Full-Service Cremation. ...
- Wake. ...
- Direct Burial. ...
- In Summary.
4) Funeral Reception
It offers the family a chance to thank guests for attending, and for everyone to share memories and provide support to each other. The funeral service is the largest and arguably the most important component that we mentioned above.
- Turn their ashes into a cremation diamond. ...
- Visit their final resting place. ...
- Do something they enjoyed or you did together. ...
- Have a memorial release with balloons or butterflies. ...
- Listen to their favorite songs or watch their favorite movies.
Bringing a sympathy card to the event is considered appropriate celebration of life etiquette in most cases, but you can also choose to go with a more personal or unique gift if preferred. You can make a charitable donation to a cause the deceased was fond of or affiliated with.
How do you collect memories at a funeral? ›- Host an open mic. Encourage guests to stand up and share their favorite stories and memories. ...
- Plant a tree or flower. ...
- Serve their favorite foods. ...
- Make a photo collage. ...
- Put together a custom playlist. ...
- Make a donation to charity. ...
- Create a memory capsule. ...
- Hold a gift drive.
Many times the people grieving just want to talk and offer memories of the deceased. If you are unsure what to say the safest option here is to just listen. It is not a good idea to bring up your own feelings of loss (if you have experienced it) because it will potentially belittle their feelings.
How do you write a short story about a funeral? ›- Consider your audience. Like most things, your audience is the primary consideration for any good story. ...
- Speak with the family. ...
- Gather your thoughts. ...
- Write the rough draft. ...
- Read your story to someone else. ...
- Write a final draft. ...
- Just breathe.
Sadness. This is perhaps the most common and universal emotion to experience at a funeral. The experience of loss naturally results in sadness, and the more you loved and cherished the one you lost, the more sadness you'll probably feel.
What is considered a ritual? ›A ritual is a sequence of activities involving gestures, words, actions, or objects, performed according to a set sequence. Rituals may be prescribed by the traditions of a community, including a religious community.
Are funerals a celebration of life? ›A celebration of life differs from a funeral in that it's often a more casual and less structured service. Many families consider a celebration of life to be more of a relaxed and party-like atmosphere with guests attending to celebrate a life well lived.
What happens during a funeral? ›
Traditional Funeral Features
During the service, people may say prayers, deliver eulogies, read passages from scripture or literature, or sing songs. At the end of the service, the body will be removed to a hearse by the pallbearers and brought to the cemetery for interment.
Death ritual begins when a person stops breathing, or is otherwise identified as dead. Treatments of the body, disposal of the remains, and the behavior of close kin and others for a specified period of mourning are spelled out by society. The body may be washed, anointed, shaved, combed, painted or perfumed.
What is the oldest death ritual? ›Ancient funeral customs
From as far back as 60,000 B.C., there is evidence early humans and Neanderthals decorated their deceased with flowers, antlers, and other items from the natural world, according to The Funeral Source.
A funeral is a ceremony for the burial or cremation of someone who has died.
What was the first funeral? ›The first burials may have taken place as long as 50,000 years ago, but the oldest known intentional burial site is Qafzeh in Israel, which dates back almost 10,000 years. These early humans buried their dead very deliberately in a cave.
When did funerals start? ›Funerals can be traced to the dawn of mankind, with every culture having some form of ritual for the dead. Many of these rituals are religious in nature and vary greatly from area to area and from one religion to another. Neanderthal bodies have been discovered dating back to tens of thousands of years BC.
How do you say a funeral service was beautiful? ›Words to say to someone at a funeral could be; “It was a beautiful service and a perfect goodbye.” “Thank you for letting me be a part of today. Your (relation) was a great friend to me and loved by many.”
Which verse in the Bible talks about funeral? ›Bible Verses for Funerals - Scriptures on Death
Be comforted by the words of Revelation 21:4, "He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning, nor crying, nor pain anymore, for the former things have passed away.”
John 11:25-26. Jesus told her, “I am the resurrection and the life. Anyone who believes in me will live, even after dying. Everyone who lives in me and believes in me will never ever die.
What do you say at a celebration of life? ›- You set eternity in my heart.
- You are loved more than you'll ever know - Romans 5:8.
- There are far, far better things ahead than any we leave behind - C.S. Lewis.
- Hope is the only thing stronger than fear.
What is another phrase for celebration of life? ›
End-of-life gatherings and ceremonies can go by many names. Most commonly, an end-of-life ceremony will be called a “funeral,” a “memorial service,” or a “celebration of life.” All of these terms refer to the ritual of gathering family and friends together after a loved one has died.
What are the three main types of funeral celebrations? ›...
There are many different types of funerals to consider:
- Traditional funeral.
- Graveside or committal funeral service.
- Direct burial.
- Direct cremation.
Funeral Service: This event commonly takes place at the funeral home, a church, or at the graveside. It can include music, the reading of literary or religious passages, a eulogy, prayer, and the singing of hymns.
What are the rituals of Hindu funeral? ›Most Hindu funerals have three parts:
A wake or funeral in the family's home immediately upon death. A cremation ceremony (MukhAgni) at the cremation site. A ceremony (Shraddha) to help the soul of the deceased enter the next world.
Full Service Funeral
A full funeral service — also referred to as a “traditional” or “full service” funeral — is the most common funeral type in most cultures. This usually occurs within days of a death and takes place at a church or funeral home.
At-Home Funerals
There's a growing movement of people who are skipping the mortician and caring for their dead loved ones themselves. Instead of whisking the body off to a funeral home and letting others handle it, the family washes and dresses it, has the viewing at home, and handles the burial themselves.
- Graveside or Committal Service. A graveside burial – or committal service – is held directly near the gravesite before the body is committed to the ground. ...
- Memorial Service. ...
- Full-Service Cremation. ...
- Wake. ...
- Direct Burial. ...
- In Summary.
Funerals underpin a necessary part of grieving as they reinforce the reality that the death has actually happened. We need to allow our grief to surface and a funeral provides a safe and appropriate place to show and share our feelings with others. This sets the foundations for 'good grief' or healthy grieving.
Why is a funeral called a funeral? ›The word funeral itself comes from the Latin funus, used by Ancient Rome to denote all manner of things surrounding death and the dying.
What is ritual and ceremony? ›Rituals and Ceremonies are two words that are often confused when it comes to the understanding of their meanings and connotations. A ritual refers to group of actions performed for their symbolic value. On the other hand, a ceremony is performed on a special occasion.
How long is a Hindu funeral ritual? ›
Short Ceremony: Most Hindu funeral services last 30 minutes or fewer. The family can choose to hold a longer funeral if desired. Scattering the Ashes: According to Hindu funeral rites and rituals, the scattering of cremated ashes takes place.
How do you say death ceremony? ›- burial services.
- exequies.
- extreme unctions.
- funeral ceremonies.
- funeral rites.
- funeral services.
- last duties.
- last honors.